A little early for a new year's post, eh? Nah, just have time on my hands and thoughts in my mind.
So, I went on a little adventure the past year and a half. Now, my last day with Flickr is here. It's been a good ride, looking back, but there are always lessons to be learned.
The greatest carry-away for me is to assume less and prioritize more.
Assumptions can lead to crazy spin-making, and I'm thinking of all the doom and naysayers out there who live by drama, feed off rumor, and care little about anything besides their own narcissism. I've now seen the other side of a coin and will be assuming a lot lot lot less about others' motivations in the future. It's tough to really care passionately about a something, because you can start to makey-uppy things in your mind, things which lead you to wrong conclusions. I see it all on the time on various internet forums. People have a story that they tell themselves. People feed off of any tangential info that supports their story, even if their story is wrong. Then, people gravitate towards others who believe what they believe and they each reiterate what the other assumes. Even if the assumptions are shown to be wrong. Especially if they are humor-challenged. Definitely if they pick up bait tossed at them. So, if you don't have the whole story and you bite at any bait out there, you're probably wrong. At the least, you're throwing good energy away.
But this take-away is for really for me.
I've disagreed with others who I thought didn't have a clue ("yur doin' it wrong!"). But there's that underlying assumption there: that they don't know what they are doing. And they might know what they are doing. I might not have all the information of their story. Or I might be right and they are clueless, but it really doesn't matter. And it's OK to put down the passion and to pick up a little trust. Seems odd to have that take-away at this moment, but it's actually head clearing. Today, I set down an entire bag of stuff — good stuff, bad stuff — and walked away feeling better than I suspected I would.
Actually, being able to close the door and take the elevator down to the first floor, walk out the door and walk into a new life, leads me to the second take-away of the day: prioritize more. My greatest shortcoming is that I am a fixer. Which assumes that something needs fixing, and maybe it does. If it does, I'm your gal – I'm great at what I do. I care. On my way out, someone at the office said that caring made people excel at what they do. OK, my ego is big enough to like hearing that, sure, but caring has to be prioritized. Because — trite phrase ahead — if I'm not taking care of me first, taking care of anything else can't really happen. I knew I was in trouble yesterday when my new doctor asked me what I liked to do for fun. I realized then that I hadn't been doing much of it.
When I look back in my life, the best opportunities came my way when having fun, so as a reminder to my future self, here are two examples. I find politics to be fun. By that, I mean political discourse and (no surprise here) being in an arena where a strong opinion is valued. And I have strong opinions! One day, in a city new to me, I joined a mailing list for a local protest group because it sounded fun to make signs for a rally. A year later, I was on my way to Boston as a delegate to the Democratic National Convention – which was a blast. We had great times there (and I'm that sort of person that thinks that stuff is fun)… and it was a stellar opportunity for me.
Another great opportunity was getting a job at Flickr… and that happened because of the fun I had participating in discussion groups on that website after taking a break from graduate school. It's been a fabulous opportunity to use my technical skills at website I truly loved. I learned a lot (both techy and the things I've written about here) and tried to impart a lot…
… which is going to be a sweet pick-up for whatever's ahead in 2011.
So, cheers and on to the new year.